In the previous blog post we discussed some basics about the co-parenting provisions of a custody agreement. However, before you even reach that point in a separation or divorce, you might be wondering, how do we talk to our children about it?
According to one study, over 800,000 divorces happen across the United States every year, affecting over 1 million children. There are resources available online tackling the topics of how to co-parent and how to focus on promoting your child’s well-being throughout the process. Here’s one recurring theme: talk to your children about it. That doesn’t mean sharing all of the details, especially if you’re fighting with your ex in court. In fact, it’s recommended that both parents sit down to talk to the children together. Keep the facts basic. If you know a timeline for when either or both of you plan to move out, help each other communicate that to your children. Have a plan and a routine, and stick to it when possible.
Put yourselves in their shoes. It’s scary not knowing what’s going to happen, where you’re going to live, what school you will go to, or whether you will see your friends.
For more information and for data cited above, please visit:
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/138/6/e20163020